Why is it that we are surprised when the “fiery trial” comes
into our lives? First Peter says we shouldn’t be; in fact, it is perfectly
normal. Now, that sounds like a pretty miserable life if you ask me. Burning,
painful suffering is normal!? Let’s figure this out.
First, Peter writes that the trials are “to test” us. What
is God testing us for? And why does it have to hurt so much? It seems
there are two sources of suffering spoken of here. One is the suffering that
Christians experience when they are being mistreated because they are
Christians. This includes persecution, ostracizing, insults, mocking,
mistreatment, and even death – all because of our faith in Christ. Not many of
us in the west have had to endure this type of suffering. Indeed it seems to be
fairly limited and, when it does occur, not of the deadly sort of trouble. Yet,
it does happen, and the Scriptures indicate that it will increase in the last
days. So, it is helpful that Peter teaches and encourages believers to prepare
them for when persecution does happen. Without these words – and others – we
might not know how to respond when treated badly for our faith.
Another type of suffering is that which results when we do
wrong. Peter warns that this type should never be found among believers in
Christ. And, if it is, there is no reason to rejoice in it but rather to be ashamed.
We have no one but ourselves to blame. However, God can and does use even this
sort of suffering to grow our faith, which leads to the third, most troubling
category of suffering.
God uses suffering for all sorts of reasons in the lives of
His children. He is sovereign so there is no way around the reality that all
suffering in the lives of Christians must first pass through His hands. God
either ordains or allows suffering but always for reasons that He can justify,
never capriciously. Generally it can be said that He uses all suffering for
good. But what is good? Anything that fulfills His holy decrees and contributes
to the accomplishment of His divine plan is good. Notice that what we may
consider as a bad thing, in God’s ways of divine providence He may be using it
for a greater good result.
So what is suffering designed to do in our lives? In 1 Peter
there are several purposes given: to promote sanctification (4:1-12), to
strengthen faith (1:6-7), to make us more like Christ (3:17-18), to prepare us
for judgment (1:7), and as a prelude to exaltation (all of 1 Peter). So it is
clear from Scripture that God’s insertion of suffering into our lives is all
about improving and helping us. But why does His way of helping us have to be
so stinking painful?
Think about it for minute. God made us. No one knows us
better than He. We are sinners, redeemed yes, but sinners nonetheless. Our
bodies are still fleshly and susceptible to rebellion. We still live in a
fallen world, surrounded by evil and temptation. Worse, we have an enemy who
wants nothing more than to destroy us or, at least, make our faith ineffective.
With all of that stacked against us, do we really think that
by just following God’s commands – using
our own power – will ever make us holier, give us a rock-solid faith, turn us
into copies of Jesus, give us the strength to endure anything, and get us ready
to meet Him in person? Unless you have a severe case of delusions of grandeur I
bet you would humbly agree that none of us can do any of this in our own power,
no matter how pious we may think we are. So, we need God’s help.
To help us get to where He wants us, God knows that we must
be broken of our love for self and be consumed with love for Him. As long as
there is anything left in us of the flesh and the world, we will not quite be
who He designed us to be. A chisel is a perfect tool to use for describing what
He is doing. A sculptor uses a chisel (and a hammer) to cut away the excess
marble to produce the work of art inside the rock. If the marble was alive it
would say that it hurts to be turned into a thing of beauty. But the end result
is a glorious thing.
Much of the reason for the painfulness of suffering is
because of our own stubbornness. At its root, stubbornness is the manifestation
of unbelief and pride, two attitudes totally incompatible with being
Christlike. I feel like it is somewhat up to us just how much suffering we must
experience before we give in and allow God to have His way. But that’s not
correct. He knows us perfectly, right? So it follows that God knows just how
far to take this suffering thing to produce exactly the result He wants; not
too little and not too much. Sadly, it often takes far more suffering than we
can actually handle. And that may be the secret: He must bring us to a place
where we realize that we can no longer endure it, that we must turn it over to
a loving heavenly Father who can endure for us. Never let it be said that “God
won’t give us more than we can handle.” He most certainly will, and He does it
quite often. Change one pronoun in that sentence and you’ve got it right: “God
won’t give us more than He can
handle.”
Further along in 1 Peter 4 we read of a strange behavior: rejoicing over suffering. Really, Lord?
Not exactly what you might call a natural response to hardship, at least for
mentally healthy human beings, is it? But Christian faith, if it is nothing
else, is often counterintuitive. In God’s economy (or, His way of doing
things), we rejoice and glorify Him when life is good, but also when it is
falling apart around us. You see, for the Christian who has been “taken to
school” by suffering, every event in life is used by God for His glory and for
our growth. The anticipation and excitement of seeing what He is going to
accomplish as a result of this “bad” thing causes us to rejoice. For, you see,
our heart’s greatest desire should always be to see God glorified in every
aspect of life – ours and life in general.
If follows that the Christian who is learning his spiritual
lessons will view every instance of suffering (or trials, troubles,
temptations) as another opportunity to grow in their faith and to see God
glorified. By viewing suffering in this
way, our perspective changes. Sure, it may still hurt like crazy to have to
experience this event but inside, our spirit has close communion with God’s
Spirit and we know without doubt that He has got this and that, when it is all
over, He will be more glorified and we will be holier, have a deeper faith, be
more like Christ, or any number of other wonderful results.
Does this level of spiritual maturity happen overnight? No.
In fact, it oftentimes takes years to get to this point. (Remember: our
stubbornness, sinfulness, weakness, etc.) To get this sort of response to
suffering from us, God knows that it will take repeated iterations of the
lesson. Thankfully, the more we cooperate with His “training” regimen the
easier it usually gets. As He proves Himself over and over again, His Spirit
breaks through our veneer of self-reliance and speaks a resounding, “Let me
handle this for you.” And, at some point, we respond, “Yes, Lord. You can have
it. Take care of it for me.” An incredible thing happens when a believer gets
to this point: the ‘bad’ thing no longer takes its toll on us as we really and
truly do turn it over to our heavenly Father to deal with. You see, we all say,
sometimes flippantly, “I’m trusting the Lord to handle my problem,” when in
reality we are still holding on and trying to ‘fix’ it ourselves. It takes an
utter demolition of our pride and rebellion to get us to this point. We can’t
do that – only God can.
Perhaps my own story will illustrate. I suffered from
fibromyalgia for 14 years. It was horrible. I lost count of the times that I
prayed for God to kill me. But during this long, dark time He revealed some
things to me. One big one was my pride. All my life had been one success after
another and guess who took credit for all of it? Me. I failed miserably to
thank God and recognize that He was blessing me by giving me good fortune in
life. God didn’t necessarily make me sick just to teach me this lesson. But I
did learn it. The disease didn’t leave me for many more years after this
revelation. So, He knew there were other lessons for me to learn.
To make a long story short, God miraculously healed me of my
disease on November 6, 2006, at a seminar on biblical health in Thomaston, GA.
The cause of my sickness was, at its core, anger and unforgiveness. Demonic
forces used that scar on my soul to make me sick, like pouring gasoline on a
fire. That’s the gist of it. Racism was also a part of it. Not surprising
considering some of my childhood influences. The anger, unforgiveness, and
ungodly attitude to other image-bearers of God were unacceptable behaviors. And
God wanted to purge those from me just as He had done with my pride.
What resulted was not only physical healing but a new spirit
of love, forgiveness, patience and color blindness towards others. I learned
that God is a loving Father and had a purpose all along for my suffering. See
how stubborn I was; it took 14 years for me to get it. But He wasn’t done with
teaching me about trust.
In more recent years I have struggled mightily with
overseeing my Dad’s healthcare and finances. He now has dementia and is not
always a very nice person. This situation stressed me out so badly a couple of
years ago that my health began to suffer: headaches, irritability, anger, and
helplessness. This went on for about a year. What made it so much worse was
that Dad during this stage of his disease was so distrustful to those of us who
were only trying to take care of him. This has always been a trait of his, but
this time it really hurt.
So, one day, I was praying for the Lord to help me deal with
my Dad. A thought suddenly entered my mind as clear as day. It was this: “Your
problem with your Dad is that it upsets you that he doesn’t trust you. How do
you think I feel when you don’t trust Me to handle your problems?” It wasn’t a
voice per se, but I had no doubt who the source of this thought was. I broke
down and fell to the floor in complete surrender and deep repentance. It took
bringing me to the point of a nervous breakdown to cause me to trust God.
Since learning these lessons life itself has not become
easier. But how I respond to trials and troubles has completely changed.
It’s almost as if the Lord has created in me a new ability that I didn’t have
before. And that’s just what it is: I have learned – through some very painful
experiences – to trust Him with complete trust. You see, if I hadn’t
experienced those difficult times, there is no way I would be able to ‘roll
with the punches’ as I do now. And God certainly wouldn’t have called me to the
pastorate.
As I prepare a sermon on suffering (from 1 Peter 4) I
struggle with how to convince my flock that rejoicing in trials is even
possible. Some of them hurt so badly it rips my guts out to hear their stories.
Yeah, I pray for them. But what I really want for them is to learn this lesson
about suffering. Yes, it hurts. But rejoice anyway because God is using this
momentary affliction to create something in you, to change you, to teach you
something. But whatever it is, you can rest in Him and have joy because your heavenly
Father does love you with a perfect love and He wants more than anything for
you to become who He intended you to be. And only He knows how to get you
there. Trust Him, rejoice, be glad, surrender, submit, receive the lesson He
has for you. The only way to believe anything I say here – or what Peter wrote
– is to try it. It is hard, I know, to look to the heavens and praise God when
your grandchild is suicidal or your son is an addict or your marriage is coming
apart – or any number of things. But that is exactly what God wants you to do.